First of all, you are not broken. Everyone, at some point in their lives, will experience sexual difficulties (and our culture, the media, and our culture doesn’t help).
We really get a lot of biases, myths, and disinformation from the time we are little that don’t help us cultivate an enriching, satisfying sex life as we become adults. And of course, the lack of sex education and silence around talking about sex allows us room to fill in the gaps with how we think our relationship with our sexuality should be.
What is sex therapy?
Sex therapy is a specific type of talk therapy that focuses on your feelings, thoughts, and beliefs about sex and sexuality.
While it can be difficult, feel vulnerable, or even intimidating to see a sex therapist, the majority of my clients say they are surprised at how easy and organic the conversations start to feel. Together we figure things out that help you discover more about yourself; and not only that, move the needle forward so that you have solutions.
Here are some of the things, but not all, I can help with:
- Painful sex
- Mismatched levels of desire
- Talking about sex
- Rediscovering passion in long-term relationships
- Erectile dysfunction
- Anorgasmia
- Low desire
- Figuring out your erotic style
- Opening up to kink
- Redesigning your relationship
- Exploration of gender and sexual identity
- Premature ejaculation
- Pelvic pain disorders
- Sex after or during cancer treatments
- Concerns about viewing of erotic materials
Whatever you are concerned about, sex therapy is a safe place to get curious, cultivate compassion, understanding and explore whats meaningful for you in a nonjudgemental space.
Sex therapy, from a decolonization lens, invites us to gently question the sexual scripts we were handed – and to notice who authored them. So much of what we’ve been taught about desire, pleasure, gender roles, relationships, and even what is considered “healthy” sexuality is shaped by Eurocentric, heteronormative, patriarchal frameworks that were never designed with everyone in mind. In this work, we slow down and make space to explore how culture, religion, race, colonization, and family legacy have shaped your relationship to your body and your erotic self – not to blame, but to understand. Rather than pathologizing difference or reinforcing narrow definitions of intimacy, we center your lived experience, your lineage, and your inherent sexual wisdom. Together, we untangle shame from survival, reclaim pleasure as birthright, and create room for a sexuality that feels embodied, consensual, expansive, and truly your own.